Fourteen years ago, I saw your face for the first time. Fourteen years ago, I held you in my arms for the first time. Where did the years go? I see you every day and realize that you are not a little girl anymore. The feeling is bittersweet. You are in a way, my firstborn and we have been through a lot together.
You have turned out to be nothing like I thought you’d be. Instead, you’ve turned out to be so much more fabulous. You are now beginning to have your own voice, your own thoughts. All these make me so so proud. But, it is your birthday, so I am going to take the liberty to nag you a bit with a few things I want you to know and think about. Here is a list of 10 things I have put together,
You are loved. I know that you wish a few things in your life had turned out differently. I know you don’t speak much about it but I wouldn’t be your favourite person if I didn’t know that it affects you. So, I want you to know that even know things could have been different, you are loved by a lot of people. People who will drop everything for you in an instant.
Don’t stand on the sidelines. Don’t watch the world go by, get in there and make your voice count. Take the opportunity. You will find yourself faced with some amazing, but scary, opportunities. You have no idea what you are capable of until you push yourself to try new things. And you have no idea which moment will be the one that transforms your life. Don’t be afraid to make a few mistakes, I promise you we’ll deal with it.
Boys are annoying. This does not change. Never make a boy more important than your friends or more importantly yourself. Crushes are pretty fun. It’s pretty normal to like a boy or a girl. And, if he or she breaks your heart, I promise to hear all about it and I will get you a large tub of ice-cream too.
You are smart, independent, funny, kind, passionate, dependable, responsible, beautiful, thoughtful, resourceful, creative, talented and worthy. You are wonderful just the way you are. Never forget that. And don’t waste your time on people who don’t see that. And, yes, stop saying, “I am stupid”. No, you are not! You are amazing.
Never apologize for how you feel. Don’t be afraid to express those feelings. Feelings are real, raw, right and intensely personal. You can’t control how you feel, and you shouldn’t try. You can control how you react to those feelings, but not the feelings themselves. Don’t apologize for or think you have to hide your feelings. In fact, I encourage you to share them – with me, with your best friends, with someone you can trust. Don’t be dismissive of your feelings and don’t let anyone else do it too. You have the right to your own feelings.
Be yourself. There will always be people who are taller, fitter, skinnier, smarter, prettier, richer, faster, stronger, or who have more than you do. But that does not mean they are better than you or that you are lacking in any way. Instead of worrying about what others have, be grateful for what you have. You are uniquely you and that is a good thing.
Don’t be afraid to say “No.” Do not let people push you around. Stand up for yourself. Stand your ground. Speak your mind. Say no. If something feels wrong or goes against your values, just say no. Trust your gut. Set your boundaries and stick to them.
Choose kindness. Stand up for those who can’t. Stand for what you believe in. When in doubt, read and learn but be strong and be kind.
Never stop learning and never stop trying. Anything that’s worth it will get hard. Whether it is karate or shooting or studying or singing, things will get hard. Don’t give up easily. If you want it, it is worth the effort.
Continue to dream. Believe in magic. Make goals, wish on shooting stars, write notes to yourself with plans you are making for today, for tomorrow, for your future
Remember, I will always be your greatest cheerleader. I don’t care whether you choose the simple life or whether you want to make millions. I don’t care what career you choose or what person you love. All I wish is for you to be happy!
For now, enjoy your fourteenth year! Hope you have the best year yet!